Women who hate women
What is cultural sexism?
It refers to the selectively unjustified negative behavior against women or men as members of a social category. It is particularly used to denote discrimination against girls and women. Research has suggested four levels of sexism? Individual, social/structural, institutional, and cultural.
If women hate women, what is a female misogynist?
Simply put, a misogynist is that person who hates women.
Recent Office Scenario:
Recently a woman called the office, set up an emergency appointment for the next morning. The next day she shows up 45 minutes late. She never called to inform staff she was going to be late or reschedule. Furthermore, there was no emergency. When my female manager canceled her appointment, she became belligerent. One could hear the childish rant as she huffed off after attacking with women with vulgar comments. Well, when she received her no-show/same day cancellation bill, things became hysterically comical over the phone. All of her attacks were towards the women in the office on a personal, educational, social, and cultural levels.
This lead to an open discussion with my staff about the self professing, “fun loving, peace happy” woman. My Team believed if it were a male physician, this would not have happened. If she were talking to a male manager, she would not have continued her unjustified negative behavior. There was a clear understanding that they were attacked for being women. They evaluated her previous visits & encounters noticing several key points. We know that education is the key to success. So let’s get educated on how a female misogynist behaves.
How to Identifying a Female Misogynist
- She will zero in on a woman and choose her as their target.
- As time goes on, her Dr. Jekyll & Ms. Hyde personality begins to show. She may change quickly from charming to rude, and from rude back to charming.
- She will make promises to her women friends and often fails to keep them. With men, on the other hand, she will almost always keep her word.
- She will be late for appointments and get-togethers with her women friends, but be quite punctual with men.
- Her behavior toward women, in general, is extravagant, bitchy, controlling, and self-centered.
- She is extremely competitive, especially with women. If a woman does better than her socially or professionally, she feels terrible and may attack aggressively towards them.
- She will unknowingly treat women differently from men in the workplace and social settings, allowing men various liberties for which she will criticize female colleagues or friends.
According to Psychology Today:
” Women haters get off on treating women badly. Every time they can put down a woman or hurt her feelings, they unconsciously feel good because deep down in their hidden brain, their bad behavior is rewarded with a dose of the pleasure chemical dopamine—which makes them want to repeat the behavior again and again.”
Here are a few come-backs to choke the fire and break the cycle.
1. You’re the adult, control the behavior quickly
“Did you just say that…in the office? Tone it down. ” Make it non-negotiable.
2. Volley back against predictable attacks
Go there first. “Ms.X, you’re getting emotional. Let’s get back to the issue–whether this or that.”
3. Call out the insult directly
“It sounds like you’re calling our office women dumb, and that hurts my feelings! You need to stay on topic without being offensive”.
We are exposed to misogynistic attacks by men and women based on our individual reasons, social interactions, the level of education, and lifestyle customs. Hence, giving your female team the ability to have strategies for a verbal repartee is important and makes your workplace a little better for the other women around you.
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